01: Step One
You live in your own version of reality
You'll stop treating your reactions as “just the way things are.”
Your mind can't take in everything, so it does three things automatically. It leaves stuff out, blows stuff up, and jumps to rules (“people always…”, “I never…”).
What you end up living in isn't reality. It's a rough draft your mind wrote. And a draft can be rewritten.
Think of something that annoyed you this week. Write the bare facts in one sentence. Then write the story you told yourself about it. Notice the gap. The gap is where all your power is.